Ways to Include Your Mother-In-Law in Your Pregnancy Journey


Wow! You’re pregnant. It is such an amazing, miraculous and happy time for you and your significant other. But did you know this is also an incredibly exciting time for your mother-in-law?  Although it may seem like second nature to include your mom, finding special ways to also include your mother-in-law can help make her feel special and included. How can you share this special time with her before it passes by? This article will give you ideas on how to include her during your pregnancy.

How to Tell Your Mother-in-Law You’re Pregnant

One of the most exciting—and nerve-wracking—moments in a woman’s life is when she finds out she’s pregnant. For many women, this news is quickly followed by the question of how to tell the in-laws you’re pregnant. After all, your mother-in-law has likely been waiting for her child to start a family, and there’s no doubt that she’ll have strong feelings about becoming a grandmother. Here are some fun, easy, and memorable ideas for announcing your pregnancy to your mother-in-law:

  • Take your in-laws to dinner or dessert and surprise them with a gift announcing your due date.
  • Invite your mother-in- law to one of your doctor’s appointments where she’ll be able to hear the heartbeat.
  • Give your mother-in- law a baby blanket that she’ll be able to cuddle the baby with when the baby is born.

The main goal for these announcements  is to invite her to be a part of your pregnancy from the beginning. No matter the approach you choose, be prepared for a range of reactions from your mother-in-law. She may be overjoyed at the news, or she may need some time to process it. Either way, it’s important to be understanding and patient. If she does need some time to adjust, try not to take it personally.

Ask Your Mother-in-Law About Her Pregnancy Journey

To really invite her into your pregnancy journey, ask your mother-in- law about her own pregnancy(s) journey. Did she have morning sickness? Did she ever get nervous going to the doctor? Did she deliver early or go past her due-dates?

You can also ask to see pictures of your spouse as a baby and hear stories from their  infanthood and childhood. Hopefully they slept through the night, right?

It’s important that you recognize that your mother-in-law is likely to be an important source of support during your pregnancy, so try to foster a good relationship with her from the start. This means keeping her updated on your pregnancy and involving her in decisions like whether to find out the baby’s gender or what you’re naming the baby. By including her in these moments, you’ll help her feel more connected to her grandchild—and to you.

Invite Her Along for Fun Activities

Why not make a girl’s day together and go shopping for the baby? After all, there are a lot of essentials you’ll need to prepare for your baby. This is yet another way you can  help her feel included in your journey.  Plus, you’ll have a sounding board for which onesies and socks she likes for your baby.

If you choose to have a baby shower, make sure to send your mother-in-law an invite. Chances are she’d love to come along with you to see what gifts you are receiving and to meet your close friends.

Determine How You’re Going to Include Her for the Delivery

While it may be too much to actually include your mother-in- law in the delivery room when Baby makes an entrance, you’ll want to make your plan clear for when the baby makes their debut. Tell her you’ll notify her when you are going into labor and when she’ll be able to come to the hospital to meet her new grandbaby.

Include Her in Conversations about the Baby’s Name

Of course, one of the most special tributes you could give to your mother-in- law is naming your baby after her or after someone in her family. During your pregnancy,  ask her about her family names. What were her grandparents, siblings or cousin’s names? What is her maiden and middle name?

You don’t necessarily need to use these names, but it will make her feel good that you are curious about her family names to get inspired for your name decision. And who knows? Maybe you really will love her great, great uncle’s cousin’s name.


So, if you’re looking for a way to make your mother-in-law feel special and involved, be sure to find ways to include her in your pregnancy. You can choose for her to be as involved or not, but regardless, you’re sure to put a smile on her face as you prepare to welcome her newest grandbaby into the world.


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